Breakups are hard. Whether you’re the dumper or the dumpee, it’s very difficult to deal with. It might feel like you’ll make it out of the Heart-sha
Breakups are hard. Whether you’re the dumper or the dumpee, it’s very difficult to deal with. It might feel like you’ll make it out of the Heart-shattering sadness. But you will.
Here are 5 things you can do to help put yourself back together after a break up:
1. Experience it
– The only way to really over a break up is to deal with it. Don’t distract yourself. Let yourself feel the emotions, one at a time. There will be good times, and there will be bad, but the most important thing is to give yourself time. If you feel like crying, cry. Crying has a bad reputation but it’s extremely therapeutic. Dying isn’t losing control, it’s gaining it back by owning your emotions.
2. Focus on yourself
– After being the second half of a couple for a while, we tend to forget what it feels like on your own again. Be your own person. Do whatever you feel like doing. Try thinking about you and the only you for a little bit to regain the awesome sense of independence that you lost while being someone’s significant other. This can be done in a number of ways. Treat yourself to something nice, like a delicious dinner or a day out. Maybe take the time to reevaluate your health goals, or even set personal goals for yourself. Indulge a little. Buy yourself a nice outfit or something you’ve had your eye on. Get your favorite food or a bottle of wine and enjoy it with, or without friends. Take time to remind yourself of who you are.
3. Try new Things
– Have you always wanted to take guitar lessons? Take yoga class? Finally read that book you bought three years ago. Well, now you have the time. Find a new hobby or take a class you’ve been waiting to take. You’ll get out more, meet new people and, most importantly, get that pesky ex off your mind.
4. Reach out to Family and Friends
– Friends and family are around for a reason. You know all those times you’ve had to console your loved ones when they’ve been in a rough place? now it’s time for payback. True friends are people who love and support you, no matter what. You deserve their time and attention and shouldn’t be afraid to reach out and ask for it. Spend weekends reconnecting with your parents, grandparents, and siblings. Too often, we take a family for granted, so this a great chance to sneak in some home cooked meals and show your family that you care. Not only that, consider volunteering to help others. This also lets you go out and meet new people. You’ll make new friends, and possibly, a new love interest.
5. Move On
– It’s not uncommon for two people to break up and want to remain friends, but the most important thing you can do is distance yourself from that person. If that means taking a month-long vacation, so be it. Don’t text, call, or email them. What you both need at this point in space. Breakups create emotional wounds, and if you are in constant contact with your ex, you will never give yourself the time you need to heal. After the healing process, go out and meet new people. There’s some truth to the old adage: the best way to get over someone is to get under someone. Join tender, or some other dating and go out. You’re sure to meet someone new, someone, you can connect to on a deeper level.
Breakups are difficult, but they aren’t the end of the world. In fact, they’re the start of something new and better.